Monday, April 12, 2010

Would You Trust A Public Cry For Help on Twitter?

I only follow a few celebrities on Twitter and they aren't the typical choices for an African American/Black 30 year old woman. I find Ashton and Demi to be interesting people...I felt that way before I got on Twitter and when I read some of their tweets it was solidified that they're pretty solid people. You follow one, you're going to want to follow the other. The other "celebrity" is Roger Ebert.  He's quite snarky...having cancer and losing his jaw definitely didn't affect his inner character.

So when you follow celebrities, you'll see a lot of things from the normies that come across as people being attention whores. For those of you who follow the more "popular" celebs, you know what I'm talking about....

Anyway, Demi Moore works closely with GEMGirls, a nonprofit organization that sheds light on prostitution of minors and child slavery. In a way, I feel like if Demi wasn't associated with this group a LOT of people would have no idea that there are predators out there seeking to turn our children into money. So it's a good thing...however, it gets weird when people do stuff like appeal to her big heart by threatening to commit suicide in her timeline.

Am I the only one that sounds freakishly odd to?

This tweet prompted me to read through her timeline:

"Thank you twitterverse for your help supporting someone in pain last night."


I didn't save the other tweet from the person threatening suicide but they were saying something similar to  they wanted to commit suicide but they were sure no one would really care.


It bothers me that there are sick people out there who would use a social online network to share disturbing stuff like this. It comes across as an attention whore because these networks are not associated with any deep thought process or avenues to present in-depth knowledge. While there are plenty of people on the site that use it for a plethora of things, the majority of people are on here for some form of mindless entertainment. Tweets like "I'm going to kill myself", but written with a dreadful amount of seriousness to them are posted to get attention.

And that's exactly what this person did...they got the attention they wanted from someone who would otherwise be preoccupied with their own agenda on Twitter.

Not to say that anyone who ignored this sack of confused emotions has no heart but it was obvious (to me) that this person was TRYING to play on the emotions of others. I don't get it...

Suicide is never anything to joke about or play wolf with. If successful, you end up dead and instead of just your soul being tortured, family and friends that felt they were close to you will feel some kind of way about not seeing you mentally tortured in enough time to save you. If unsuccessful, you fill the minds of those surrounding you with the thoughts of when you'd try it again, if you'd want to be stopped, and would they be able to stop you in enough time. Basically, it isn't anything you'd want broadcasted on the internet.

I just don't get people sometimes...I guess this is me trying to attach logic to an otherwise illogical situation...

9 points of view:

a black girl who did date said...

I knew of someone who cried wolf about suicide at least 3 times on a social networking site. The fourth time she was successful in her attempt. She didn't tell anybody the 4th time because people thought she was playing games. It was really sad and the people from *that site* did not help while she was depressed during the time she was here on earth. Instead of really helping her they were snarky and ridiculed her. So I am not saying that it was the right venue but that was where she felt comfortable.

AssertiveWit and Babybottoms said...

that's very unfortunate...

It just strikes me as weird that her attempt wasn't successful the first time and she proceeded to do it again using the same avenue to "warn" others of her demise. Out of all the people that were "following" her and could see her messages, not one was her friend? No one "pulled her aside" to inquire if she was "ok"? So many things run through my head when huge public forums are used to divulge information that is life threatening. She might have been comfortable using it but if you want someone to care and you need to get their attention, you can't risk things coming across as a joke.

I was just telling a friend on Twitter that I know a couple people who attempted suicide because they weren't getting enough of the attention they wanted. Then I know others who are truly battling some inner demons and feel they can't take life anymore. I'm more mentally equipped to help someone I know is going through some things versus a spoiled brat who needs to put life in perspective. That isn't to say EVERYONE who tries to commit suicide is a spoiled brat because that isn't true. I've just known of some people who've fit that description...

jeanette nicole* said...

I'm always conflicted when it comes to situations like this. The cynic in me is quick to believe that if they were really going to commit suicide, they'd just do it instead of talking about it. That coupled w/ the fact that they reached out to a celeb via Twitter also causes me to question the validity. Then the bleeding heart who wants to help everyone within me thinks "well maybe there is no one they can talk to IRL"... It's all a little too "boy who cried wolf" for me.

ChiChi said...

When I see this type of stuff, I immediately think they are on some bullshit. I'd be sorry if the person was serious. Like, if you really wanted someone to help you, I'd advise not announcing that plan on the interwebs.

AssertiveWit and Babybottoms said...

jeanette: I don't want anyone to misunderstand my feelings and thoughts on suicide. ANYONE who has attempted or just threatened to do it needs SOME kind of help. It just makes it hard for people like myself to take the attention whores of the group seriously. I am not well equipped to deal with someone I know just wants the focus on them. I deal better with people who are more...genuine.

The thing that bothers me the most is that they reached out to a celebrity and not someone who actually KNOWS them....that makes me go hmmmm...

ChiChi: I don't want anyone to really try and take their life and I would feel some kind of way if someone I knew ended their life. However, I do feel like if that same person has no problem saying they have best friends and or family they love, they should have someone to reach out to versus a celebrity on twitter.

RAVEN said...

i remember hearing about this somewhat on twitter, if the person was just fucking around, pretty lame way to get attention. thats part of the reason that those people that are really genuinely depressed to the point of suicide sometimes slip through the radar, because we hear people joke around about it so much that when someone is serious about it, we dont take them serious. definitely not a light topic to just joke about, i really hate what twitter does to some people.

a black girl who did date said...

She did have several friends but that did not seem to help her at all. *Kanye shrug* I don't know and do not understand it.

phallatio said...

For the self-centred, "I'm going to kill myself!" often means "Pay me some attention!" Sorry if that sounds cynical but I have many people in my life that want my time and get very upset when they can't get it.

AssertiveWit and Babybottoms said...

Raven: your comment was basically my "rant" in a nutshell...not to say these kinds of people don't exist but I've never encountered someone who attempted to take their life and reached out to a celebrity to stop them...all seems quite suspect. Twitter has truly brought out the inner assholes for some people...

black girl: I don't either...

phallatio: you're entitled to your opinion :)

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