Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Maybe It's Just Me...

...but I don't think that Sean Combs is "spoiling" his son by giving him a Maybach and a $10,000 check for his 16th birthday. I'll tell you my reasoning behind it.

First off...that's that man and his family so what he does REALLY isn't anyone's business but his. However if my answer was that simple, there would be no need for this blog.

So, the next important reason why I don't think it's spoiling is that if you understand the REAL definition of what it means to spoil a child, you'll see it has nothing to do with Sean and his kids. To spoil your child pretty much means you are doing things to destroy their character that involves "excessive indulgence" (according to the dictionary). I agree wholeheartedly with this. Is it going to damage Justin's character for him to own a vehicle worth more than 300k, as well as, a check for $10,000? Not hardly.


Because Justin had a larger bank account then some people who worked their entire lives, before he was even 10 years old. He has a genius (in some aspects) for a father who made sure his kids would NEVER go broke. Unbeknown to many people, his father listed him as the Executive Producer on pretty much ANY musical act coming through Bad Boy. Great way to keep the money in the family AND should anything EVER happen to Sean, Justin will ALWAYS be financially set. He has been accustomed to the lifestyle of "the rich and famous" since birth. Nothing is excessive when this is your daily norm. The truth is, you can spoil your child by giving them something that costs $2; if they don't deserve what you are GIVING them, you are spoiling them.

I'm sure Justin is accustomed to riding around in expensive cars that his father owns; he just happens to own one too now. Had Justin used his own money to purchase this vehicle to be chauffeured around in, would you still classify it as him being spoiled? Probably not and if you would, I'd really like to hear why.

Bottom line is, people need to take themselves out of that equation. Sometimes it doesn't add up or make sense to those with lesser bank accounts because they can't afford to even buy that stuff for themselves. But if you could, you would. Not saying everyone would own a Maybach because everyone might not like that car but what I am saying is you would spend money on the things you wanted. For instance, if I had Diddy's money and I chose to have a library built for Babybottom's in her room and I filled it with nothing but First Edition novels, would you say that's spoiling her or that it's inappropriate? Probably not because it's books.

I know for a fact the bank account I have today very well won't be the bank account I have when Logan is 16. Will I buy her a Maybach? Probably not. However, it won't be because it's an inappropriate gift for her. I just don't see the purpose in buying a new driver or soon to be driver a 6-figure vehicle for them to more than likely tear up within the first year of them having it. However, she won't be pushing no 1990 Honda Accord either. Is anything wrong with a used car for your teenage child? Not at all. You should ALWAYS purchase things within your means and what your lifestyle has you accustomed to having.

My point is, if my child(ren) are being raised in a certain fashion, that doesn't change when it comes to me giving them gifts. If I have the money to buy them whatever I want them to have, they will get it...as long as they aren't being bratty heathens.

Being a brat won't get you shat.

Seriously though, who are we to tell a multi-millionaire what to buy his son? Until we have similar bank accounts, it is highly presumptuous to assume millionaires/billionaires should spend their money as though they didn't have it. That's what you do when you got it like that; you spend it. Last I checked, none of these entertainment moguls were going broke due to purchases our banks accounts would cease to exist over.

P.S. - to anyone I was talking to on Twitter about this, I wrote this before I replied to you :)

6 points of view:

A.Smith said...

Excellent points. I think that this is just another case of us seeing something and thinking about the way WE (and our 3 friends) would do it. Few of us really are able to stop and see a situation outside of our own window -- it's not bad, but it's something to consider before judging another person's action.

Anonymous said...

Great points you have here. Most people are wish they could do such a thing for their children, which causes them to speak against what Diddy did for his son. $10,000? That's nothing but chump change to Diddy. Trust there was a lesson behind that and I don't think he went overboard at all.

JaeSpenc said...

I agree wholeheartedly... To sum it up in 3 words... It's all relative...

If you give a homeless person who never had anything a moped... they'd be ECSTATIC! To Diddy/Justin, 10k is like the 7$ weekly allowance I give my kid...

MissM said...

I don't think he's spoiling his son. I just think *that* car for a 16 yr old, new driver that probably can't even drive by himself till he's 18, is irresponsible.

I hope there are safety features up the yeahoo.

I think it's an overindulgence and I'd say the same if it was Bill Gates or Donald Trump or the guy down the street. Then again... everything Diddy does is an overindulgence. I'm not surprised or anything... I should have figured, though. I didn't realize Justin was that old!

AssertiveWit said...

A.Smith: I agree and I think a lot of people are thinking in relation to their current funds they have. If they thought in reference to being a multi-millionaire or billionaire, their thinking would have to change. When you have a significant amount of money, you change how you live. I don't know one person who STILL lives according to what they made on their first job; this is no different.

Kenya: Justin reportedly gave that $10,000 to Haiti. I don't know too many spoiled children who would give up ANY of their birthday gifts so that spoke volumes about his character. Even if he didn't, I don't think it's a big deal. This is just rich people BEING rich.

JaeSpenc: I talked to my mom about this and she said the same thing you did. She said sometimes people can't think past their current circumstances so they apply it in situations like this when the reality is, they'd spend "excessively" on something else. It might not be a Maybach but they'd be indulging in something.

Curvy Jones: I believe a "first car" should be previously owned so that the new driver can get all their abusive use out of it. However, that is what I believe and I wouldn't call another parent irresponsible for buying the car of their choice for their kid.

Especially when that car is probably more safe than the home in which you reside. You do know that car cost over $300,000, right? It has safety features on it that other cars probably can't have. So it's definitely a "safe" vehicle LOL.

As for it being an overindulgence, I'll end my reply with this quote from my dad:

"It isn't overindulgence if you can afford it. Folks need to mind their business and stop concerning themselves with things they can't afford"


Jay_fever said...

It annoys me when people over indulge themselves in other peoples pockets. On some they make millions so they should be saving the world type ish...Like word??? Well you make like a tenth of what they make and I saw you throw a quarter of what you made for the week at a stripper...shut the hell up.

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