Sunday, October 11, 2009

When I Say "Thank You", You're Supposed To Respond With "You're Welcome"

Since my last blog I posted I've had a baby and my entire body has gone through numerous changes. I've started writing about 5 blogs only to save them and never go back to finish. Changing diapers, feeding the kiddo, and nursing my "wound" (I had a c-section) consume my day to day process. Even when I get a few minutes to write or finish what I started, I doze off and wake up to a little fist nudging me, signaling that the next feeding is supposed to be taking place.

According to Babybottoms dad, "it's a piece of cake"; I told him to say that after his stomach muscles have been cut through and then he has to pop a tit in a baby's mouth every hour (yes, my baby is greedy as hell). It is not a piece of cake but when she smiles, no lie, it's worth all the pain (sometimes....LOL).

So you would think being consumed with this little face below, I'd have nothing more to think about than her...wrong. I have a pretty active mind and since I have more than enough time on my hands, I started going through all the gifts I received for her.
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I started my thank you cards but never got around to putting them in the mail so I emailed the people who got me gifts. No one replied. How rude, right? I stopped caring about them not replying after 2 seconds...the people I was confused about not replying were the folks who haven't spoken to me in years that sent gifts.

When I say they haven't spoken to me, it's been due to them disappearing out of my life for God knows what reason or I've decided they weren't as a good a friend as they thought they were and I distanced myself....either way, those people are not obligated to buy my child anything. They aren't even obligated to acknowledge she's alive....so I find it VERY weird that they decide to care enough to buy her a gift and then go back to being "dead" when I say thank you. This makes me feel like I've wasted gratitude on them and it makes me wonder what they sent the gift for in the first place. Did you send it as a segue to opening our friendship back up? Did you send it to make yourself look good or like the "bigger person"? Why did you send MY DAUGHTER something if you were just going to ignore HER MOTHER?

It makes no sense to me and it comes across as rude...

Some people might say, "Well, if you weren't speaking already, why do you care?", the truth is, I didn't care....until they sent their damn gifts. By them buying her a gift, I have the option of accepting it and then HAVING to be cordial/nice and saying thank you OR declining the gift and expressing to them that since they can't speak to me any other time, please don't buy my daughter stuff. Unfortunately, I quickly become the bad guy if I choose the latter option...

I was just raised with manners and "you're welcome" is just as mannerable (is that a word? I don't care) as "thank you" so it makes me go hmmm...

Anyway, I should be back to writing in a bit just lately the things I've had an opinion on might light some folks short fuses and I don't feel like hearing foolish retard statements regarding common sense type things at the moment (i.e. President Obama receiving the Nobel Peace Prize).

17 points of view:

a black girl who did date said...

You are welcome and Lil Logan is the funniest baby thus far!!!

Stepfanie said...

Aw, how beautiful! I'm glad everything went ok and you now get to enjoy your time with your daughter!

And so true, a "Your Welcome" takes only a second! :-)

NightFall914 said...

Congrats, glad you and the baby are well. :)

the YOUNG LIONESS said...

congrats!!!! how lovely

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

Awww, look at little miss precious! We're so happy for you, girlie! Thanks for sharing with us, seems like yesterday we were joking about the countdown to Babybottoms arrival. All the best!

Coogie Cruz said...

She really does remind me of a cabbage patch doll! So precious. I am with babies all day so I know how tired you are cept the breast feeding part. But remember I am down for babysitting, I am a pro haha.

favorisntfair said...

Congratulations on the beautiful healthy baby! We love the chirren. I swear I got so called friends like that...I'd hate to think what they will act like once I start procreating...bleh! lol

Simply Me said...

congratulations!!!!!!!!!

always4evamoi said...

1st off, congrats!!! can we say awwwwww?? and does she has your schm face already? lolol

2nd, i hear you so much about the gift thing. i feel the same way. if u stopped talking to me, why buy something? it's confusing and somewhat insulting.

3rd, girl i hear u about the tired part and take all the rest you can 'sneak' in but im happy to have heard from you still...

God bless you 3!!

A.Smith said...

Lord, I love babies. I do, I do, I do-o (a la Kel from Kenan and Kel)

Congrats on your baby! She is too cute and as such has no time for the #foolishness. So if even only for her, ignoring the foolishness as you are is right on par.

To paraphrase a quote from a girl I don't actually know, "Eff the people who don't love me or treat me like they should..."

Eva said...

Congrats on your new arrival! And you're right, you're welcome is 2 words (3 without the abbreviation) - it's not difficult!

phallatio said...

I probably have 100 friends who feel they are being short-changed by me. I am busy. Like, real busy! Guess you'll have to cut these people some slack. Times are tough. At least they sent the baby a gift! Some folks didn't!

Mista Jaycee said...

Look at that cuuuuuute baby! Well alright! Baby's first BLOG! Do it! Today, I rolled across the floor noticing the shiny things Mommie wears in her ear on the floor. Gotz to see how it taste!
Drat! Mommie found it and picked it up putting it in the secret drawer where nothing ever returns but where all the good stuff is.
Later!

Congrats with love!
Jaycee

Assertive Wit said...

Thanks everyone for the congrats :)

Coogie Cruz: I have you stored under future sitters already LOL

phallatio: I think you misunderstood my posting...I wasn't fixating on people not responding to my "thank you" email...that was sarcasm. I was MAINLY talking about SPECIFIC people I hadn't spoken to in years who bought Logan something and didn't respond to me. Being busy and times being tough has NOTHING to do with THOSE PARTICULAR PEOPLE responding...I JUST had a baby less than 3 wks ago....I'M BUSY TOO! But not too busy to respond to people...if they can be on twitter (ALL DAY!!!), facebook, and myspace, it won't kill them to reply back with:

"you're welcome"

Brilliance Is A Habit (c) Unknown said...

I want to know what you got. I want to ooh and ahh from afar.

Jay_fever said...

Congrats once again

VerbFashion said...

Congrats on that beautiful baby!

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