Tuesday, July 07, 2009

Chatty Cathy's In My Family

That face above is one of true disappointment.

I was talking to my mother yesterday and she volunteered that she had spoken to my cousin on the phone. My cousin stated that she had just received her invitation to the babyshower and she adamantly wanted to know why the babies last name was not Walker (my last name). The minute my mom said this to me, she chuckled. I didn't. Babybottoms has a living, breathing, fully functional father in her life...why wouldn't I give her his last name? My mom tried to say this under the guise that my cousin said it but I knew at some point I was going to hear about having a child and not being married. I listened to her play by play of the conversation and I replied:

"You gave us dad's last name. Why can't I give Babybottoms her father's last name?"

My mother's reply? "I'm married though"

I had to sit the phone down for like 1.5 seconds so I didn't curse at her like she was some woman off the street. What in the flying flock of geese does being married to someone have to do with giving your child THEIR FATHER'S last name??? Not a damn thing but my cousin felt the need to tell my mother that since I wasn't married, the father didn't deserve that privilege and I could at least hyphenate our last names. Maybe because my sister chose to hyphenate her sons last name, everyone felt I was going to do the same. I'll pass. While that was her choice, it isn't mine. On top of that, the relationship she had/has with her sons father is TOTALLY different than the one I share with Babybottoms father.

Personally, I don't need any additional constant reminders that I'm having a child out of wedlock. I think I have one VERY MUCH alive and well kicking the shat out of me on a daily basis. What ever happened to keeping it simple stupid and just giving your kid 3 names, like yourself? I have a first name, middle name, and last name. Any children I give birth to, will have the same.

The disappointment comes in here...it is OBVIOUS my cousin would NEVER have this conversation with me. Which is probably why she chose to have it with my mother, in hopes that it would get back to me. I love her dearly but she can suck a peen on this one. It was also obvious that my mother was agreeing with her on the name thing but chose to say nothing earlier because she needed more people. I don't care if the entire family feels I should give Babybottoms both of our last names, it ain't happening. As far as I am concerned, that conversation between my mother and my cousin could have stayed between them. Like most things that are inadvertently passed along to me, I will choose to ignore it. She didn't feel the need to intentionally insult me and my decisions regarding my child so I'm not going to intentionally send a boot to her neck.

8 points of view:

Craigjc said...

Ah, family, can't live with 'em, wouldn't be here without 'em. At least they're not soliciting you for baby names, "call her So-and-so after so-and-so,". Now, that would be annoying.

Assertive Wit said...

Oh, I been thru the name thing already LOL I called my Aunt to give her my address and when I told her the babies name it was that deathly silence. It was obvious she didn't like it but didn't know what to say; I just kept right on talking, not paying her a lick of attention.

Someone asked me why I was giving my child a White person name...there are a million and one things I could have said that would have been just as rude as them but I just smiled and said "when you have children, feel free to name them whatever you want because you'll have that privilege"....folks kill me, family included! LOL

Gabby B said...

HAHAHAHAHAHAHaH! My favorite part is the ..."What in the flying flock of geese..."

CLASSIC!

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

Don't ya just love unsolicited advice and questions...ugh!

Kofi Bofah said...

I am just floating through blog world to see what's good...

Coogie Cruz said...

Your child, your choice. At least that's how I see it.

Assertive Wit said...

Coogie Cruz: that is what I eventually ended up telling my mom when she kept relaying the rest of the conversation...I was so close to using some bad language on that azz but I restrained myself LOL

Then she gone say, "Well, ultimately, you decide"...ummm, yeah, that's ALWAYS been the case. Both of them need to go sit down...

Jay_fever said...

"I love her dearly but she can suck a peen on this one."

Extra laugh points for the word "peen"

I haven't laughed so hard at a penis joke since Snoop said that Grandpa Freeman "could suck a bag of baby dicks"....HA!!!!!!!

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