Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Random Rambling About People Who Need To STFU

I was supposed to write this last night but after cooking, eating, and just being plain ol' tired, writing was the last thing on my mind. It didn't take as much energy as it does now to cook so I am completely pooped once I sit down and eat. I almost didn't want to get up and put the food away but then I thought about bacteria and did it moving to the kitchen to clean up.

Having a baby makes you think about things that are normally insignificant to you...it also causes other people to say the dumbest shat ever in life...to your face. Just when I think I've heard it all, someone else proves there will always be someone more dumb than the last person you deemed so.

Take for instance people who ask whether or not you want your baby to be light skin or dark skin. Caucasian people do not have to deal with this form of idiocy because well...unless you mated with an "Other", you only have one shade/color your kid could come out as.  In the Black/African American community if you have anyone in your family that is not the current shade of "blackness" you are, there is a chance your DNA can pull something from them and you have a kid that is the total opposite in coloring than yourself. This has never bothered me or been of any concern. As far as I'm concerned, whether you are Halle Berry or Kunta Kente, you're all Black to me. My mother is significantly darker than myself...my father, more so on the "what is he" side (read: he's hella light). The father of my child is significantly darker than I am. Regardless of what color my child comes out as, I would love it no less because it is a reflection of me and my family.

I actually take offense to other Black/African American people who say stupid shat like:

"Dark skin babies are ugly"

Really? My mother is dark skin...and was a dark skin baby. Are you calling my mom ugly? Two of my father's sisters are darker than my mom...they were ugly as babies too? My grandmother, aunt, and uncle...all darker brown...they were ugly too? Ah yes, and the father of my child...dark skin baby...guess he was ugly too.

I've heard this hateful comment (no matter how much someone might think this is a joke, it's hateful to say) several times since I've been pregnant. Someone even told me to pray for a light skin baby. What type of coonery and buffoonery is this???? When did it become okay to say "racist remarks" ABOUT YOUR OWN RACE??? If someone other than a Black/African American said this, I can assure you, these people would be up in arms at the statement but because you are Black/African American, it's okay for you to say it? No it isn't and I'm STILL offended.

Let's keep it real...THERE ARE SOME BABIES THAT ARE JUST PLAIN OLD UGLY REGARDLESS OF COLOR OR RACE. I've seen some pictures of my friends and as a kid, they weren't no stunna but eventually they blossomed into the cute/pretty/beautiful person they are today. I would NEVER go so far as to group all people of one kind into a lump like that...it's ridiculous and totally untrue. Makes me want to punch people in the face due to their stupidity and shallowness...

Sometimes I just want people to shut the f*ck up...

10 points of view:

NightFall914 said...

Yeah there's some real rampant self hate going on in our society. I wish someone would say sum shit like that around me......morons.

jeanette nicole* said...

The self-hatred that runs rampant throughout our community boggles my mind. Pray for a light skinned baby? Really?! I'ma pray for that person to get some sense. *sigh*

Craigjc said...

Hate to say it, but yeah, some babies do look like lil Gremlins. But the light/dark bias thing is crazy. People who say that are insecure about themselves.

♥Nikki D.City Star♥ said...

Yes, that is shamefully stupid of people to become racist against their own race. I mean I do make fun of black people sometime in a "family" kind of way, lol. But when it comes to a baby's complexion...well thats just DUMB. Besides lighskin babies turn dark all the time!

Jay_fever said...

I grew up initially in a very mixed community, and that's one thing I'm extremely happy to have missed out on that's rampant in many heavily black communities...that whole light/dark mentality baffles me. You're right... beautiful is beautiful and ugly is ugly. It has nothing to do with color or shade.

a black girl who did date said...

We created a dance at Nisia's party called "The Picket Sign". So when people say hateful ish like dark skins babies are ugly, you can do the dance and sing "hate, hate, hate."

Diamond~Star said...

Pray for a light skinned baby??? OMG, I know I have heard some things but I have really heard it all. All shades of black are beautiful. Some people just don't know what to say these days.

DLG said...

Pure ignorance. That mess really disgusts me. I wish those people would see the things they were saying as the self-hate that it is. Black is black is black. Beauty comes in all shades and I wish that people would see the diversity of shades found in our race as the blessing that it is.

Pro's Hood said...

That kind of self hatred is deeply rooted in the African American community. We've been preconditioned to believe that lightskin is beautiful and the European look is whats "in" its sad when we as a people can't break from that and embrace the differences we have.

Emeritus said...

ppl actually asked you that ish? other than it being offensive, rude and ignorant, how would one even go about answering that question should one actually be dumb enough to consider answering.

you should say something dumb back like, "you know that cereal Lucky Charms? Well I sure do hope to gawd that my baby comes out that exact shade of green!!! He/she would match the curtains in his/her nursery." Then walk the f*ck away. After you give them the crazy eeys of course.

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