I started writing this last night because my neighbors were on the patio with a guitar, bellowing out Beatles songs...from 3 am to 5:30 am. I had enough by 5:15 am and stomped next door to tell them to cut it out.
Since I couldn't get back to sleep I got on Facebook and a conversation was prompted by my cousin IMing me on Facebook before she boarded her flight to California this morning. I had asked her if she saw her sister's status on FB; her sister just so happens to be a stripper. Now, before anyone gets the idea that I have some reserved judgement towards strippers, stop right there. If that's what you feel you have to do to get your money, by all means, do what you feel you must. I will tell you right now, if I HAD to do it to provide for my child, I would. Would I feel humiliated and disgraced every night? Probably but nothing a few shots of patron and a blunt couldn't make go away. My point is, REGARDLESS of all the naysaying and "I would NEVA EVA" that most people will say, if that was my last resort, I'm taking it.
Everyone doesn't have family that can financially support them when the chips are down...everyone doesn't have a "baby daddy" they can harangue for ALL of their bill money. Plain and simple EVERYONE doesn't have the same options in life so therefore, do what's necessary.
But what I won't EVER understand is in a profession like stripping and selling drugs, how you can EVER be "broke". First off, they aren't the most respectable jobs...who am I kidding? They aren't respectable professions AT ALL. So if you MUST do them, do them STRICTLY for the money...otherwise, you look like a clown, lazy, and/or both. Both jobs are tax free and potential cash cows from the day you start them. Granted, not EVERYONE is doing them for the same reason but this is how "stripping" gets a bad wrap; drug dealing, well it's illegal and will ALWAYS be looked at negatively no matter how much you try to justify it. It just is what it is.
So when I see a drug dealer/stripper that still lives at home (but complaining about how they don't have money), I cringe...when I see a drug dealer/stripper that has no car, I cringe...when I hear about a drug dealer/stripper that can't pay their rent, I cringe...when I see the kids of a drug dealer/stripper and they look like easy targets for the stereotypical welfare recipient, I cringe. These are things that are unacceptable when your job dictates that you are doing it to pretty much survive. Like I said before, EVERYONE does it for different reasons but MOST people start out doing it because they need the money.
So my question is...what do you really need the money for if you aren't paying rent/mortgage, car note, and/or taking care of your kids? If you are spending your money on weaves, acrylic/gel nails, food, cheap clothes, expensive clothes, shoes, bags, plane tickets to go get tricked on or trick off on someone, and/or drugs and liquor, and then remember on the 1st, dammit, I still got my bills to pay, you deserve a swift judo kick to your forehead. This isn't judgement...this is plain old common sense. If you make $5,000 in a month and your living expenses/overhead is $1,800, take care of that first. You still have $3,200 to do with as you please but be responsible with your life so you don't succeed in looking like a damn idiot to the general public, family and friends. I mean, if you really don't care how foolish you look then hey, keep looking stupid...even to your fellow dancers and dope boys.
I won't argue with anyone and say that drug dealing and stripping isn't a "real" job. The effort you have to put into it is similar to being a waitress. You have long hours and your pay is based on how well you perform. If you are a sucky waiter/waitress, you won't get many tips. Same goes for stripping...if you aren't shaking something during the 4-6 hours you are working, you aren't going home with much money. Selling drugs is no different...you can't NOT take phone calls all day because you are sleep. When that phone rings, you MUST be available because it is the difference between making $50 in one day and $500. If you do the math on how much you can potentially earn in ONE DAY, ONE WEEK, and ONE MONTH, you'd probably want to abandon your code of ethics for a new set to have this profession (if money is your "thing").
I can recall some magazine like Newsweek calculating how much drug dealers make in a day and equated the pay to a worker at McDonald's. They were obviously doing their statistics based on the lazy dope boys. If you are making the same as a fast food worker, get out now, while you aren't incarcerated. It's obvious, this isn't the lifestyle or "job" for you if you can't make more than minimum wage with what you are doing...again, this is tax free money so what the hell are you doing that you can't make more than $7 an/hr? You're fired from life.
Same with a stripper...I've seen "successful" women who make their job look so glamorous that strip clubs will ALWAYS stay in business. For every reckless stripper abusing her profession, there are some "smart" ones who are staying focused on the real reason they are there...the money. Like I said, regardless of how you personally feel about what these people are doing to get their money, as it stands, if they are GETTING money successfully, worry about whether or not you'll have a job tomorrow because they always will...if they are actually working.