Friday, April 17, 2009

You Couldn't Pay Me To Believe You Have Better Friends Than Me

I might not talk to ALL my friends on a consistent basis but they certainly have no problem letting me know they are my friend. And THAT is what's most important to me. I don't NEED to talk to you everyday...and truth be told, sometimes when you talk to the same person EVERYDAY, you kind of get tired of hearing them talk about the same things ALL the time...if they are that kind of person. Space is a good thing between some friends. I know it is for me.

So, a friend I haven't seen in a couple months (I think) sent me the following on my Blackberry Messenger last night, just randomly out the blue:

"I can't wait for Choop (her nickname for the baby) to be here. You're going to be a superb mom. You're a good person and a strong person. Just thought you should know."

I was taken aback because it was LITERALLY out of the blue so I asked where all that was coming from and she says:

"My heart"

I think a piece of me melted instantly and then she followed it up with:

"But I've just been thinking about it and I thought hey those are all good thoughts and I'd want to know and would want to hear if someone thought it of me so I thought I 'd share "

Sometimes I don't know how to respond to things like that...not because people don't tell me...simply because that kind of stuff is so genuine and I've always thought the proper response was to shed a tear but I'm not that much of a cryer. So when I say "thank you", sometimes I feel like they don't think I really appreciate it. But I really do...

These past few months have been TRULY introspective for me and the hormones have made me cry more in the last few months than in my entire life! I'm a pretty decisive person by nature but being pregnant makes me REALLY do what's best for me and the bundle FIRST, before I consider anyone else. I think it's some kind of mommy mechanism to keep me safe...or at least that's what I keep telling myself. There have been some decisions I've made effortlessly whereas 6 months ago, I might have sat back and over analyzed them to the point where I changed my first mind on what to do. I don't regret not one of the decisions since I've been pregnant. I've grown closer to all the people who matter and that's what matters the most to me at this time. Others and their headaches that I usually make time for because I'm being "a friend", they've all taken the backseat. One thing I can thank Babybottoms for is giving me perspective on people and it has truly helped.

I had my reservations about having a baby in my current situation (read: not married) but the baby has actually given me the clarity I needed in life. Surprisingly, my friends I haven't spoken to for the longest amount of time have been VERY helpful and it's making me see how blessed I am to have ALWAYS had them around. At first I felt some kind of way about having no family in Georgia but they've made me reconsider my definition of family...they are my extended family and I love them as much as they love me...and Babybottoms :)

4 points of view:

Craigjc said...

It's good to be loved, aint it?

DLG said...

Aw this blog made me smile:) It's nice to read things like this because a lot of people take their friendships for granted.

A Genius said...

I'm just getting over the fact that you're pregnant.

a black girl who did date said...

This was awesome!!!!

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