Wednesday, April 01, 2009

Unsolicited Advice

Nothing irritates me more than unsolicited advice. For one, if I want advice, I have FEW people I ask and they are usually in this particular order: my father, Tamara, my mother. If I am sharing what appears to be one of my life's debacles with you, it is not for you to give me advice. In the event I am trying to keep the conversation flowing and I ask a question, 9 times out of 10, it is rhetorical...I know what I am going to do before I even talked to you. Sometimes people just want to talk things out...not necessarily hear from others what they feel YOU should be doing.

Some people don't get this and feel the need to spread their advice EVERY chance they get. The thing I find about people who feel so freely about giving their unsolicited advice is RARELY do they take their own advice and apply. This makes me want to stab them in the eye even more. Stop telling me what I need to do and focus on your f*cked up life because USUALLY people who give unsolicited advice DO NOT have the most exemplary lives. Maybe this makes them think they are the best at giving advice but I have a natural aversion to people with f*cked up lives trying to tell me how to live mine. Work on yo shatty shat and let me worry about my shatty shat, capice?

I'm not in a bad mood today so please don't interpret this post as me being mad at someone...because I am not. Just in the last few months, I have been getting a TON of unsolicited advice because I am pregnant and then on top of that EVERYONE and their mother wants to tell me how to deal with the father of my child. Granted there are days I want to rip him limb from limb but I honestly will blame that on the hormones coursing through my body that makes me hate all things (read: men) that have a penis attached to them...sometimes. To be 100% honest, me and the father are cool. I won't lie...there are some things I would prefer to be adjusted only because, in my opinion, your life SHOULD change when you have a child (read: stop being so damn selfish) but some people are going to be who they are regardless of having children or not so...oh well.

But back to the unsolicited advice...yeah, it's MORE than irritating and my patience filter is slowly disappearing. Last night I politely told someone thanks but no thanks on the advice because I don't need it. It is ESPECIALLY nerve wrecking when they are ALWAYS presenting their advice like they are some Dr. Phil kind of authority on the subject at hand...do you even know what you are talking about? No...no, you don't so please be quiet and find some youngin that actually might need your advice on life....because I don't. I'm not saying I can't learn anything from someone younger than me because I am sure this kid I am about to have will teach me something new every day but for someone to assume their advice is best AND best for me....f*ck outta here. You and your unsolicited advice.

I think I'm done...

4 points of view:

msdailey said...

A heads up b/c we are fellow Sag's, I know you're gonna go off on the 1st person who tries to touch your belly that YOU DONT KNOW!!!

No advice, just a heads up!!

People always give solicited advice when they dont want to deal with they own problmes (IMO).

Assertive Wit said...

LOL already happened...I just took a deep breath and said, "I don't like it when people I don't know touch me and it has nothing to do with being pregnant". I smiled and walked away...

I don't know why people think you're a bitch because you don't want to be touched by randoms...seriously, is there some rule that says because you're pregnant you MUST let any and EVERY one touch your belly? It's SO rude LOL

JaeSpenc said...

I completely feel this post...
... but if I could offer one piece of advice...

LMAO! Kidding...
Congrats on being preggo (sorry I didn't see that in any previous post...lol) and the belly touching it RIDICULOUS! I always hated it. Like do I come up and grab your breasts because I think they're huge?! Um no.

a black girl who did date said...

Awww, The Wizard feels so special!!! LOL!!!! Sometimes you just want people to listen and folks have to learn that.

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