Thursday, January 29, 2009

Washing My Hands of This



Have you ever had someone list you as a reference for a job and NOT call and tell you?

This recently happened to me and all I could think was "I know this clown NEEDS a job so, I'm going to give a good reference for her but I hope our information coincides because if it doesn't, that is her fault not mine".

So who listed me as a reference? This person right here.

I'm totally confused as to WHY she would list me as a reference when she doesn't have anything good to say about me to our friends (see that link above). So it's safe to say that when you need something, I become your friend again, but when you don't need anything you can talk all the sh*t you want to behind my back. Right.

It never amazes me that no matter how kind you are to someone, they will STILL show their azz on you if they are just unhappy with things in their life. So I gave a DAMN GOOD reference, even though my first thought was to decline on the reference altogether. I understand it is a recession and she needs a job...well a better one than she currently has so I hope that reference gets her what she needs to be happier with her lot in life.

I resigned to give up trying to sit down and talk to her about the situation (see that link above) because she ALWAYS came up with an excuse for why we couldn't get together and/or she'd try to bring other people to the "Discussion Party". Who behaves like this? Her.

She told me today that she doesn't like to make plans for her off day because she works 2 jobs now and she be needing her sleep. Oh, so you made assumptions about my finances (see that link above) but you need 2 jobs to cover yours? Sounds like a LOT of projection there. I haven't had or NEEDED 2 jobs in YEARS. But right after she told me she doesn't like to make plans on her day off, she asks me what I am doing for Super Bowl Sunday....Sunday? Is today Sunday? Nope. Today is Thursday.

So you can make plans to go watch football with me but you can't make plans to have a serious conversation with me that will take less than the time it takes to watch the Super Bowl? Right. You don't want to talk...I get it. Therefore I am not going to keep asking. Really grinds my gears...so since I am not asking again to talk about this (it's obvious she's just going to keep playing me with different excuses; the ones listed above are just a few of the many she's given) I'm sending a nice email and washing my hands of it altogether.

11 points of view:

Beezy said...

Again...a nigga is a terrible thing.

Kryssy said...

uughh... I had a "friend" JUST like that. We should introduce the 2 of em...
Anywhoo... I just stopped trying, changed my #, blocked her email addys... and kept it moving.
My life is so much better...

Number Five said...

Hey, can't say you didn't damn try...I would do the same thing

JuJu said...

that's good of you to be the better person; but i dnt blame u in the situation.. and lmfao @ the picture!!

jeanette nicole* said...

She's a mess. I don't blame you for washing your hands of the situation altogether.

JOFre$h said...

Damn thats wack seven years of friendship can go down the drain like that.

Mr. Jolla said...

wow...some people are filled with all of the world's gall.

Assertive Wit said...

@ Beezy: Paul Mooney said it best LOL

@ Kryssy: you made sure she didn't come slinking back in, huh? LOL

@ JuJu: in all honesty, I REALLY wanted to disappear off the scene because I know her and it would be an argument but I hate when people disappear on me without letting me know so I decided not to be a hypocrite LOL

@ JOFre$h: it is a shame but you know...you win some you lose some...I sincerely hope she attains some form of happiness in her life because she desperately needs it...

@ Mr. Jolla: the UNMITIGATED gall sir LOL

Miss.Stefanie said...

Frenemies...Ia int even dealing with "friends" like that because that is not true friendship. YOu need to wash your hands away from that ish and keep those who are good to you around.

CurvyGurl ♥ said...

You went above and beyond. People are a freakin' trip. This is almost as bad as when a former coworker...who was fired for embezzlement...sent me a text basically saying I put you down as a reference, just wanted to let you know...*crickets and a WTF moment*. Yeah, dude, I'm stupid enough to give you a reference and risk my job after you lied, committed theft and who only knows the rest...can you tell it's still a thorn in my side?

NightFall914 said...

That's crazy yet unfortunately too common. I can say no one that has crossed me has ever shown their ass in that particular way but the list of people that turn that smile on when they need something is still longer then it should be.
You handling it proper. Wash your hands of it and keep it moving.

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